It should be the worst thing that happens

Sherri T.

 

The other day, I was distance-walking with dear friend Betsy.  We were talking about (what else?) the big changes in our lives as a result of COVID-19. 

We went on for some time listing the personal fall-out.  After sharing at length my own particular angst, Betsy summed up our conversation beautifully as follows: “You know, my mother would say: ‘It should be the worst thing that happens.’ ”

Now this was not the first time I have heard wise words from Betsy’s mother Min.  She would advise that “you can’t dance at every wedding.”  It’s not possible to be everywhere all the time.

With such important guidance that Min had provided in the past, I knew there was another vital lesson to be learned.

“It should be the worst thing that happens” is a total walk-stopper.  It literally stops you in your tracks and helps you put things in perspective.  While things may not be great, they are truly not the worst they might be.   

There is no denying that the current circumstances have led to unspeakable heartbreak, anxiety and  depression for many individuals and families.  The trauma they have experienced will not be easily erased.  Unfortunately, for some, this devastating crisis will be the worst thing that happens.

For others, the pandemic has basically put life plans on hold.  Our lives may have turned sideways – but not upside down.

If you look at the world – and your own world – only from what is, then it may appear daunting or almost impossible to cope with the challenges.

But if you think about the world – and your own world – from the viewpoint of what it could be, things may look entirely different.  It’s not usually as bad as you fear. 

Min’s words are a gentle way of saying: “Get a grip.”  Change your mindset.  Change your frame. 

“It should be the worst thing that happens” does not necessarily mean seeing the world through rose-colored glasses.  Rather, it’s a way of seeing the world – and your own world – with greater understanding and even appreciation.  When all is said and done, that’s a good thing to happen.